a short and incomplete list of reasons why lesbian relationships are great

pwincessie:

whyisfeminismathing:

hardscum:

- emotional support
- no dick
- can share accessories (and clothing, if size and style are not an issue)
- women know how to be people
- you can reasonably expect a female partner to be able to handle her own life, unlike a Nigel
- no dick stank
- no pregnancy scares EVER
- you can guesstimate when your period is gonna come when ladyfriend gets hers
- no dick
- have i mentioned no dick

yes lets treat lesbianism like it’s a choice! that’s not homophobic at all! ahhaa ladies come over to the lesbian side lets outlaw men!!! woo yes!!!!!!

LET’S GO THROUGH THESE ONE BY ONE:

  • emotional support can come from any loving relationship, whether it be romantic, platonic; whether it be between a man and a man, woman and a woman or man and a woman (etc)
  • what’s wrong with dicks?
  • you can share accessories and clothes with a male partner. are you that opposed to unisex clothing?
  • men are people too you cunt.
  • not every heterosexual guy is trying to oppress and control their female partner
  • i am sry but there are some smelly vajjies out there, go sniffing
  • pregnancy scares? what’s so bad about them? it’s just a scare. with the correct protection, unwanted pregnancy has a very slim chance of existing. even if it does, if the couple isn’t ready for a child there are alternate methods of not having that child.
  • not all girls get periods?? and not all are regular?? i sure as hell don’t get periods (depo provera - you know, birth control. also used for a variety of other things, my main reason was because i was completely irregular)
  • WHAT IS WRONG WITH DICKS HONESTLY GO SUCK A REALISTIC FEELING DILDO FFS

don’t get me wrong, lesbian relationships are great. so are heterosexual relationships.

also.

NOT EVERY FEMALE IS FUCKING ATTRACTED TO WOMEN IN THAT WAY AND CANNOT BE. IT IS NOT A CHOICE as the previous answer states.

pregnancy scares? what’s so bad about them? it’s just a scare. with the correct protection, unwanted pregnancy has a very slim chance of existing. even if it does, if the couple isn’t ready for a child there are alternate methods of not having that child.”

help what does this mean

what does any of it mean

(via empressie)

I think…

rachelunstoppable:

Supporting feminism is good for humanity.

Supporting Trans* issues/rights is good for humanity.

Feminists and Trans* people share a common enemy, and it’s not each other.

It’s the patriarchy.

Discuss. 

(Source: rachelevation76, via transcultist)

Tags: feminism trans

Shaving, Unintentional Politics, Intense FtMs, thoughts, etc.

So I shaved my BUTT.  It sort of accidentally lead into shaving my whole legs which ended up taking about 1.5 hours.  It was like shearing a sheep.

I like my leg hair, I look cute with it, but once and a while it feels really nice to shave, too.  Sometimes I balk at the meaning injected into my activities by others at a glance.  When I don’t shave, my ‘maleness’ or whatever is respected by queers, reviled by others.  My queerness is validated.  If I shave, people question my identity, tell me I’m not a feminist, and men think I’m ‘into them’ solely because of the change.  I know that the actions I’m performing do carry loaded meaning coupled with the right context, but sometimes I wish I could divorce some things from the political because right now, in this moment, I just don’t want my butt hair to be all gnashing up on itself when I’m practicing for derby.

I have a lot of butt hair as a result of T.  Sometimes I complain about my butt hair. After I put the poor mangled razor on the bathtub edge, I was having fun thinking of stringent tumblr FtM responses to my activity.  Stuff like, “WTF WHY WOULD YOU EVER TAKE T IF YOU WERE AFRAID OF GETTING HAIRY GOD STOP COMPLAINING IF YOU WERE REALLY SERIOUS ABOUT TRANSITION THIS SHOULD NOT MATTER TO YOU” maybe some “FAKE TRANS” stuff and etc thrown in there.

If anybody on T ever posts about their LDL cholesterol levels I’ll be all like ‘IF U WERE REALLY SERIOUS ABOUT BEING A MAN YOU’D HAVE NO PROBLEM WITH THIS’.  Dying of heart disease?  SUCK IT UP AND DIE LIKE A MAN.  lol.  I would never actually say any of those things.

Months ago I learned that my brother had been secretly trying to wax his back and butt because he was having issues with the sheer amount of hair, but his girlfriend did it all wrong and it apparently just hurt.  I should call him up and leave him a voicemail yelling ‘FAKE TRANS’ and just hang up with no explanation.  Oh wait he’s cis

Anyway, I understand why transguys would police other people’s thoughts and behaviours on these subjects because granted, there’s this added pressure for transpeople to conform to a pretty normative gender role to be taken seriously by a majority of people.  It still doesn’t make it RIGHT, it’s just unfortunate.

Ma’am

So.  When you call someone MA’AM, what are you actively thinking?

I WANT TO KNOW.


I’m serious.  Tell me.  Because there are 4 or more honorifics for females, people read as females or women and women-IDed folks and 1 for male and men type folks.  Glossing over the sheer amount of revulsion I have about this so that I may talk about it at another time,  since there IS this distinction in our culture, what prompts YOU to choose between the plethora of honorifics to classify women?

ALL men are sir, regardless of if they are married, what they look like, how old they are, etc.

But what about when you read someone as female?  You look at them and you react to them.  Are they old?  Are they conventionally attractive?  Are they fat?  Are they wearing makeup?  Are they worth sexualizing to you? Do they look stereotypically enough like their assumed sex that you can approve of them?

Reading the comments section of a blog post about the use of the word ‘ma’am’, I came across these comments:

The difference between a “miss” and a “ma’am” has nothing to do with age and everything to do with a woman’s sexual status. “Miss” is used to refer to a virginal or sexually immature woman. An unmarried woman is presumed to be a virgin, thus any unmarried woman, regardless of age, is “Miss.”

and then this response to the prior comment

I don’t care what it’s referring to. It’s antiquated to have four different honorifics for a woman and one for a male. Women are always named and categorized as if we’re cattle, and it’s bullsh*t. If every man is a sir every woman regardless of age or marital status should be a madam. That it isn’t so demonstrates the extent to which women are steel under the thumb of the patriarchy. We are judged by our youth and our looks, and the language reinforces that, creates an unsavory reality. I say stop using ma’am. If you don’t like to be called it, by heavens, don’t call other women ma’am. If you meet me, Ms. (Miz) will do just fine.

I bolded the part that I was the most interested in.

sanityscraps:

caffeinatedfeminist:

slutrockerbitch:

thefeistyfemale:

Men are feminists as well. This is a great poster!

Yay male feminists:)

This is fantastic!

I appreciate the intent here, but please don’t make feminism about you. It’s not about you. It never has been about you and never should be.

YES.
It’s great and all that you feel bad about the societal implecations of your own gender stereotypes (and if you didn’t I would think something was wrong with you), but co-opting the expereinces of gender oppression from the feminist movement is not the best way to go about social change.  ”But what about the men!?” isn’t really what feminism is about.
Do you wanna know WHY men and masculinity often come with the implecation that they will intimidate, control, threaten, and overpower simply from being present?
BECAUSE THAT’S OFTEN EXACTLY WHAT THEY DO.
I am not saying that male-identified people and/or men cannot be feminists with this sentiment.  What I am trying to say is that instead of trying to change other feminists minds about you, maybe you should work on trying to redefine and rework masculinity, and what it even means to ‘be a man’ so that these implecations are no longer relevant.  Then come back and talk to me.
To be honest, I try to do a lot of work within queer and feminist communities, and I feel much safer in these spaces but I’m not reaching out to what I feel needs the most work.  The spaces and demographics which need the most work are straight, heteronormative males.  This is where change has to happen, and this is what has to be reformed.  I feel like the change has to happen from within that demographic, because when I try to talk to them I don’t feel like they take me seriously, and why should they change?  They’re above me, so why would they have to listen to me?  They’re not being oppressed (even though the cis, straight, heteronormative male gender performance is probably the most restrictive, identity-stifled thing I can think of but most of them don’t seem to realize it), and I’m just some tiny non-binary thing (pretty sure ‘a woman’ to them though).  And that’s what I resent.

sanityscraps:

caffeinatedfeminist:

slutrockerbitch:

thefeistyfemale:

Men are feminists as well. This is a great poster!

Yay male feminists:)

This is fantastic!

I appreciate the intent here, but please don’t make feminism about you. It’s not about you. It never has been about you and never should be.

YES.

It’s great and all that you feel bad about the societal implecations of your own gender stereotypes (and if you didn’t I would think something was wrong with you), but co-opting the expereinces of gender oppression from the feminist movement is not the best way to go about social change.  ”But what about the men!?” isn’t really what feminism is about.

Do you wanna know WHY men and masculinity often come with the implecation that they will intimidate, control, threaten, and overpower simply from being present?

BECAUSE THAT’S OFTEN EXACTLY WHAT THEY DO.

I am not saying that male-identified people and/or men cannot be feminists with this sentiment.  What I am trying to say is that instead of trying to change other feminists minds about you, maybe you should work on trying to redefine and rework masculinity, and what it even means to ‘be a man’ so that these implecations are no longer relevant.  Then come back and talk to me.

To be honest, I try to do a lot of work within queer and feminist communities, and I feel much safer in these spaces but I’m not reaching out to what I feel needs the most work.  The spaces and demographics which need the most work are straight, heteronormative males.  This is where change has to happen, and this is what has to be reformed.  I feel like the change has to happen from within that demographic, because when I try to talk to them I don’t feel like they take me seriously, and why should they change?  They’re above me, so why would they have to listen to me?  They’re not being oppressed (even though the cis, straight, heteronormative male gender performance is probably the most restrictive, identity-stifled thing I can think of but most of them don’t seem to realize it), and I’m just some tiny non-binary thing (pretty sure ‘a woman’ to them though).  And that’s what I resent.

(Source: fieldsongs, via lipsredasroses)

"

But back to that bit about me hating men. I’m tired, tired, tired of people expecting me to defend myself against the accusation that I just hate men. It’s bullshit deluxe, and it’s the most transparent derailing tactic there is. I know that I’m raising spooky specters when I hint (I’m really subtle, right?) that there might be something wrong with male supremacy, with gender roles, with men violently abusing women, with men treating women like subhuman sex objects, with men being stupid violent alpha-male dicks towards each other, but it isn’t my job to reassure men that I still love all of them and give a shit what they think just because they’re uncomfortable confronting the possibility of the loss of a bit of their privilege.

And besides all of that, why shouldn’t I hate men? Men, being the default humans, get to decide how they want to act and how to define humanity and masculinity with fewer constrictions than women face. What they’ve opted to go with is pretty abysmal, and I don’t have to pretend to like it. I can already hear the whiny voice of some MRA saying, “Then why can’t I hate women? They choose to act as they do!” Women have to deal with enforced femininity, and while a lot of the behaviors femininity entails do indeed suck, they aren’t chosen as freely as men’s behaviors are. And now I hear the whiny voice of some dude who doesn’t adhere to the NFL Masculinity Guidelines claiming that he has to suffer the opprobrium and violence of those who do. Well, duh. But again, it’s men who are the problem, and it’s men who are responsible for men’s behavior. Oh, shit, here comes that MRA again, claiming that women are gold digging sluts who won’t date men who aren’t rich. Who created the ideological world system in which a man’s worth is judged by his material possessions and in which wealth supersedes decency as the chief indicator of a man’s value? Pretty sure that was men (unless you want to try to tell me that women have been running the world and doing all of the important philosophizing and ideological treatise writing for the last few millennia)….
…I really do hate most men, because I hate what masculinity and maleness mean and the kinds of behaviors they produce.

"

— nine deuce, http://rageagainstthemanchine.com

"Fashion is one of the very few forms of expression in which women have more freedom than men. And I don’t think it’s an accident that it’s typically seen as shallow, trivial, and vain. It is the height of irony that women are valued for our looks, encouraged to make ourselves beautiful and ornamental… and are then derided as shallow and vain for doing so. And it’s a subtle but definite form of sexism to take one of the few forms of expression where women have more freedom, and treat it as a form of expression that’s inherently superficial and trivial. Like it or not, fashion and style are primarily a women’s art form. And I think it gets treated as trivial because women get treated as trivial."

Fashion is a Feminist Issue: Greta Christina  (via heyicanbetheanswer)

(via lipsredasroses)

Nolan Natasha - Talking Shit

Ohhhhh Nolan.  <3

What does it mean to be emasculated?

Seriously, I want to know.  Tell me.

I’m serious, tell me.

Because the root of the word seems to be castration.  And then depriving of strength, vitality, etc.  Because obvs only men have those things to be deprived of. In our culture it’s usually used to describe a man being humiliated by juxtaposing a stereotypically feminine activity or trait on him.  Because, you know, it’s always humiliating if you’re a man and anyone accuses you of having a feminine trait.

The effeminate needs to exist for one to be emasculinated as it is thereby viewed as weaker/lesser/etc.  This weaker thing has to exist so there can be a better thing and that better thing can be compared to the lesser thing.

And this makes me question what people think it means to be a man even more.